What challenges do we face when on the "scene"?

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Permalink Reply by Georg Overgaard Sorensen-Spoljarich II on September 11, 2008 at 6:52pm

"the scene", well it is usually filled with people that think highly of themselves hold extreme self esteem., and care little for anyone else. For those of us with a visible or mental (I hate using that phrase), disability especially in the gay community we are more sensitive to scrutiny and vanguish. I myself, suffer from low self esteem and use to find "the scene" challenging. Even though I made a career out of modelling and being a promonate restauranteur, there was me still unsure and insecure being in the gay scene. So much is based on looks, personality, carisma, machismo, and the like. God, being gay is enough, having to toil with the latest quims on how you look or how you should act would put you on valium for life. Chris you are right though, through your own positive energy with oneself, I bring it up a notch, you attract those around you with the sensitvity and intellect. While in "the scence" time has not change for them and that they are leechs, paria of our community, and are hard to filter out. Being diagnosed with MS and Bi-Polar disorder at the same time, was a huge double whammy. I sold my restaurant to reduce my stress, gave up my modelling and tried to focus on family and friends. There is no easy way in or out of "the scene", but if I can just utter a word of advice to anyone thinking they "are all that" time is fleeting and soon or later the bell towls. Be content with yourself, be happy you are able to make choices, and rejoice in the knowledge that you do make a difference. Georg

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Permalink Reply by Chris on September 12, 2008 at 9:36am

Really well put Georg, especially the last bit of advice. Want to go into motivational speaking together? LOL I think we are more enlightened, once we have accepted whatever our diagnosis might be and the challenge is attracting people who have an open mind (you'd think gay men would, but they are as human as everyone else... all shapes and colours). Since the days of HIV, there was a small period where the community seemed to band together, now there seems to be an "us" and "them (HIV+)" divide... I have many poz friends, and they really do see themselves as different. I personally choose to see myself as a person (who happens to be gay and with a disability). My boyfriend is not ill or disabled, but he has struggled for years with issues and has become one of the most enlightened people I know. I don't believe in the term "non-scene" because even this site is part of the "scene", hot guys looking for hot guys... whatever, we deserve to be a part of it and take what suits us.

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Permalink Reply by John on November 17, 2008 at 11:43am

I some times have to use a walker Most people are helpfull and cutious But no ones wishes to go beyond that

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Permalink Reply by Jayson on February 11, 2009 at 11:22am

I too don't drink there is one obvious disadvantage I am severely hearing impaired which makes communication one of the major problems i have of course it can b an advantage if u r out with a group of friends who all use sign language but trying to meet mr right has been a long uphill struggle but thankfully i have after many years found someone who understands we are both totally different i sign and my partner boyfriend whatever uses speech but he has very kindly started to learn sign language and i am trying to be more considerate of his feeling and am trying more to use speech. I have never enjoyed pubs and clubs purely because communication has been very difficult for me

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Permalink Reply by John on July 6, 2010 at 11:00am

I do not use a wheel chair I use a cane and or a walker I hate big curbs and stairs I have reported to a Barrier free organization here sometimes it helps most mostly ignored and unchanged I 'm not a big drinker but I enjoy going out

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