When are we going to be racially free to date in the SA GLBTI community?

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Permalink Reply by Solo on September 2, 2008 at 8:50am

At least someone has the strength to say it and speak the truth..........................

Permalink Reply by Cecil on February 23, 2009 at 6:17am

That is all true and unfair to most of who are very comfortable with our status.One cannot go to the shop without being judge and given judgmental remarks, how are we suppose to love and be loved?

Permalink Reply by Kara on March 1, 2009 at 11:53pm

People must learn to let go and free themselves from hatred i mean come on the guys who created apartheid died long time ago i believe that once we stop talking about the olden days and start talking about the future i have met lots of guys especially in the african community all they do is talk about apartheid and how they hate whites. Its the way life works the humans have the need to make others feel inferior and thats all that happend its human nature. Do you see my point,

Permalink Reply by Kara on March 1, 2009 at 11:59pm

So havent you made someone feel less of a human than you are that too is apartheid the cycle will always Be. Its wrong but let it go bro there are lots of fish in the lake and you will meet guys who are wise and notice race is nothing but an enviromental adaptation that God put in place for climate control, the tool of survival in that continent. We are all the same inside so bro LET IT GO

Permalink Reply by Daniel du Plessis on April 12, 2009 at 8:55am

hey unfortunately the State keeps on perpetuating racial classification - me no problem I find a sexy man sexy doesn't matter what colour of the skin or hair texture. I was actually shocked last night - went fro a drink with my partner to Cape Town's Gay Spur and sitting there minding our business - actually enjoying all these fantastically outrageous flamboyant guys in their haut couture - not sure all fromt thesame are but one is from Guguletu as it just so happens that his grandmother used to work for us and he lives with his grandmoter? In walks to guys I know from sight and the one said can't go in as it looked like a shebeen - I told him maybe he should then go in and see how people enjoy themselves and not have hangups about life. Anyway they vanished in a wiff of perfume giving me venomous looks - I hope though that these guys will soon realise that they must soon change their attitudes or just go and live in some little hokkie somewhere away from life

Permalink Reply by Johan van den Berg on April 13, 2009 at 4:39am

Things must change.. our "group" has faced abuse for many years and still we want to practice racial segregation between ourselves DOES NOT MAKE SENSE! If you go to some of the clubs in Johannesburg you'll find that whiteys will go to this one while darkies will go to places such as simply blue. We need to stand together!

Permalink Reply by Hennie on June 6, 2009 at 5:42pm

I am in a relationship with a young black guy and we have been going out for the past two years. One of the problems we experience is the lack of racially integrated places. When we go out in Preoria, the places are either majority white or black. The only place where people seem to mix is Simply Blue in Johannesburg. We also find a lot of gay people "looking at us funny", firstly because of the race difference, but also because of the age difference.

We just want to be together and happy and make some friends on both sides of the racial divide. Come on SA and all the moffies out there, time to lose the discrimination. At least try and make an effort!

Permalink Reply by h4ppym4n on July 21, 2009 at 9:35am

Hey i agree, I don have any issues but i know lots of people who do, and who judge when i do date outside my race, but i just learn to look past it and ignore it. If someone brings it up I say what i have to and move on, I can try change their mind set but its in them and its going to take time to change them, its very very slowly coming right, but its getting there.

Permalink Reply by Angelo Foxx on July 27, 2010 at 4:19am

it's amazing how we hav limit our selfs to such ,race ,size, money
I think a lot of us have missd da meaning of true Joy