I have this friend. He's so cute and attractive and surely, he's straight. He has everything I ever wanted in a guy. I don't know if this is simply lust but I really want to have sex with him but I just can't do it. why? because I want him to be open to that kind of idea and allow himself to do it. if not because of that, I always could have gotten him drunk and taken him into my room. What ways could you think of by which we can have sex that is mutually consensual?
Be upfront with him though - especially if you're close friends - as this pressure is obviously causing you a lot of stress.
I'd ask for an age - as younger kids (i.e. born after 1980, and increasingly each year there after) are much more open to exploring their sexuality - and casual sex.
This isn't anything to do with the actual age of the person, just how sex is perceived by the younger generation, and this is a generality - not a statement of fact in all cases.
How good of friends are you?
Does he know how you feel about him?
Do you want a friendship/relationship - or just one night of careless sex that he consents to?
There are a lot of factors to consider here - and generic advice isn't going to serve you very well.
Give up some more details, or try to decide if your friendship is worth risking to take a shot at fulfilling your physical desires.
Permalink Reply by None on January 11, 2009 at 9:28pm
Probably there are no ways for you to realize your dream with your friend. I've been through this before. If he would wanna have sex with you or something, dont you think he would already do it by now? Think about that. I have suffered in vain because of my love for an heterosexual friend. I felt so powerless. I dont wish that you or anyone else have to pass through the same thing.
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