Ageing Gay Men

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Permalink Reply by Troy on September 28, 2008 at 6:03pm

Believe it not Roger, I think I'm working on a similar project. I'm trying to put together a series of interviews and short biographies. I'm trying to show the diversity of the male homosexual community, I want to speak to gay males from different racial and ethnic backgrounds, classes, and from adolescence to old age. If you'd like I'll offer advice and as well I'd apperciate feed back.

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Permalink Reply by Roger Levi on November 6, 2008 at 2:15pm

Peter,

At first I was a little shocked by your comment and it also slotted very nicely into the stats that I'm gathering but then I reviewed your webpage and noticed your age bracket. I suppose my question to you is why? Why is it not okay for older men to have an intimate sexual relationship? Why doesn't the world want to think of older people as sexual beings? I don't want to get all philosophical here but part of living is being a sexual being. It is because of the forced repression of their feelings that major behaviours begin in older people. They lash out, the grab and grope at people etc etc. They have no avenue to express their human desire because WE in society suppress that ability.

We have become a very sad human race - fighting, racisim, sexism, intolerance etc. What's wrong with allowing an older person some dignity, respect and fun in their latter years? The younger generations should be looking to the older generation for advice and support. As the current stats show, the next generation of babies are not likely to oulive their parents. Scary - and guess what, society has created that.

Roger

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Permalink Reply by Kalash on December 18, 2008 at 3:09am

I'm 26... Almost 27 (middle of Jan)
For me - I'm more asexual than gay.
I'm into the cuddly stuff...
Sex is just something to get through in order to get back to the cuddly stuff.

Granted - I'm occasionally taken over by hormones and have a strong desire to jump on someone, but I hold back - I don't feel that the emotional consequences of the physical acts merit the few moments of pleasure they may bring.

Just my opinion here - the older you get, the more you think about the events following sex, and unless you have a committed partner, you don't want to deal with the possible rejection and loss of control (over yourself and your emotions) you give to the other person.
The older you get, the less likely you are to invest your emotions into strangers.

So again - if you have a devoted partner, it's all well and good. You'll enjoy yourself and not fear the repercussions of your acts.
If you don't, you're taking a big risk (unless you have a lot of money...) in meeting and engaging in sexual acts with another person.

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